Damned if you do Damned if you don’t

Ever notice that when you set goals and they are not accomplished in a timely fashion that others seem to explain or confirm they are not surprised in your lack of accomplishment even if they are the cause?  That is to say you set out to do a certain amount of things today, this week, next week, this month and during that time while accomplishing some of those goals, you miss some too.  Well that is part of life, we set goals so that we do not aimlessly float through the days of our life for a target, something to shoot for!

However many things keep us from said goals; fear, distraction, even helping others.  The damned part is in helping the others we cannot lose sight of the fact that we set goals, it is important to help others, but you must realize that your goals if they are truly set as attainable then you may have to do extra work to accomplish them if you choose to help or be distracted by others.  Yes help others, but don’t expect them to recognize how much time you spent distracted or away from your set tasks of accomplishing your defined goals!


  • I see why you haven’t gotten anything done…
  • Well if you would stay focused you would have gotten that done!
  • What have you been doing that you can’t get that done?!

I don’t mean to discourage you with this, but your goals are just that your goals, other people have their goals which maybe as simple as getting this or that fixed or this or that moved or anything that qualifies as a favor, honey do or something that is helpful for their immediate or other need.  It may even be something big in accomplishing their “life goal” or one of them, so don’t be fooled into thinking that it will help you accomplish yours!

Know when to set boundaries or if that is not the case if you are helping a loved one (spouse, parent, friend) then you should help them, but expect that the time spent helping them has taken away from you accomplishing what you set out to do.  They may thank you for your help, but that doesn’t change the fact that the time spent with them must be put back into your goal.  Less sleep, break or relaxation for you is where you must sacrifice, but I can tell you if you are willing to choose one or the other or work the extra time so you can do both (help others and yourself) then not only will you avoid the sting of …“why didn’t you get that done…” from that loved one, friend or boss, but you will feel the accomplishment of I did what I needed to and got what I set out to do done.  You then not only fulfill your goal, but get the recognition of accomplishment too!

Overnight successes are built from years of work! I hope this encourages you cause I really needed to hear it and get me rear in gear!  The harder you work the luckier you get!

Obligatory Will Rogers quotes

Half our life is spent trying to find something to do with the time we have rushed through life trying to save.

There are 3 kinds of people the one that learns by reading. The few who learn by observation. The rest of them have to pee on the electric fence for themselves.

The road to success is dotted with many tempting parking spaces.